50 hours to friendship

Adam Grant wrote about making friends

This sheds light on why it was easier to make friends when we were kids. We had regular interaction with peers where our hobbies were constantly on display. Thank you, show-and-tell. In adulthood, our cohorts shrink and our hobbies hide, so it takes longer to discover and develop meaningful bonds. Some evidence suggests that it takes an average of 50 hours of interaction to progress from acquaintance to friend and 200 hours to reach close friend. How can you accelerate that process?

I’ve noticed that most of the friends I made in my thirties share something more than specific interests. We have the same general idea of what it means to have fun.