Gottman relationship questions

 How would you answer them?

1. Do you and your partner engage in outside interests together?

a. All of the time

b. Some of the time

c. Very rarely

d. Never

This question is from the section of the Adviser that measures overall relationship satisfaction. Understanding if you and your partner spend time together doing new and exciting activities is an important factor in measuring your relationship happiness. 

2. I can list my partner's major aspirations and hopes in life.

a. True

b. False

This question measures Love Maps. We use this term to describe the part of your brain where you store all the relevant information about your partner’s life. Happy couples remember major events in each other’s history, and they keep updating their information as the facts and feelings change.

3. I would say that we still have our tender and passionate moments.

a. True

b. False

This question helps us measure intimacy, sex, and passion. The quality of your sex life is important to overall relationship health, and helps us determine if this is an area of opportunity in your relationship.

4. Our conflicts seem to come out of nowhere.

a. Never

b. Almost Never

c. Sometimes

d. Almost Always

e. Always

This question measures conflict management. Questions like this one allow us to understand how you handle issues that arise, which in turn provides a snapshot of the effectiveness of conflict management, compromise, and repair in your relationship.

5. I feel confident that I will stay in this relationship even if we go through hard times.

a. Strongly Agree

b. Agree

c. Neutral

d. Disagree

e. Strongly Disagree

This question measures levels of trust and commitment in your relationship. Trust and commitments are the building blocks of strong, healthy connections. 

Mostly positive answers may indicate that your relationship is on the right track. On the flip side, if your answers are neutral or negative, you may need to identify your areas of opportunity.