Listening is openly receiving, allowing it to be what it is

Josef Albers - Homage to the Square

 from Rick Rubin

111 (Listening) Communication moves in two directions, even when one person speaks and another listens silently. When the listener is totally present, the speaker often communicates differently. 

Most people aren't sued to being fully heard, and it can be jarring for them.  Sometimes we block the flow of information being offered and compromise true listening. Our critical mind may kick in, taking note of what we agree with and what we don't, or what we like and dislike. We may look for reason to distrust the speaker or make them wrong.  Formulating an opinion is not listening. Neither is preparing a response, or defending our position or attacking another's. To listen impatiently is to hear nothing at all.  Listening is suspending disbelief. We are openly receiving.  Paying attention with no preconceived ideas. The only goal is to fully and clearly understand what is being transmitted, remaining totally present with what's being expressed -- and allowing it to be what it is. Anything less is not only a disservice to the speaker, but also to yourself. While creating and defending a story in your own head, you miss information that might alter or evolve your current thoughts.  

Listening without prejudice is how we grow and learn as people. More often than not, there are no right answers, just differet perspectives.  The more perspectives we can learn to see, the greater our understanding becomes. Our filter can begin to more accurately approach what truly is, rather than a narrow sliver interpreted through our bias.