Make people excited to see you

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How To Make People Excited To See You

For the longest time I wanted to make friends, but not just normal friends. I wanted the kind that would run to hug me the second we spotted each other.

I wanted to make people excited to see me.

After a few years of practicing I achieved it, here’s my top 3 tips I use to achieve this consistently when I meet new people.

1. People are just mirrors, give them exactly what you want back.

I wanted people to be excited to see me, so when I met people I started with a simple smile.

The second time I saw them I recalled something funny that happened between us and got a bigger smile.

The third time I see them I’m basically grinning ear to ear.

Then they begin to reflect my happiness to see them back to me, until we’re both like, “HEY ITS YOU!”

Important note, start with gentle happiness. If you come out excited out the gate people will think it’s just you, not that you genuinely like them.

2. Don’t interrupt.

Nothing says, idgaf about you more than cutting someone off mid sentence.

When you meet people, ask things that genuinely make you curious.

Say: “Hey I’m curious how did you get into…how did you choose… why did you…”

Then actually listen to them.

This excites people because there’s few good listeners in the world.

3. Highlight similarities

When I meet people after I ask things I’m curious about, I will focus the conversation on what we share.

You like skydiving too?! My favorite place is over Honolulu, what’s yours?

Then people will feel like you naturally understand each other.